Loss and grief shouldn't be the only instigators that push us to better enjoy the people in our lives
Loss and grief shouldn't be the only instigators that push us to better enjoy the people in our lives. We can and should learn how to be present and make the most out of each moment.
As a new idea in my mind, this is by no means a solid source. I'm happy to hear your thoughts and learn better.
Being present in the moment will let you discover your mind and the people around you in a whole new level.
- Awareness and a beginner's mind is one of the best combinations to enjoy your time with whoever you're speaking to as it'll allow you to capture most of the magic moments available.
- This is a skill you can cultivate, and it doesn't necessarily needs to go through loss, although that's one of the most common ways to develop it.
- If your mind is currently too biased/negative/tired to be in the moment with those around you, the least you can do is not to actively seek distraction.
- The MVP of presence.
- Tiny magic moments can also be sensed in one's own mind. Therefore, besides better relationships, a tuned presence will improve the enjoyment of your own company. Life will be in more HD.
This idea was sparked by reading Tiago Forte's My 12 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2020. Specifically, lesson 5 - An immense amount of meaning is condensed into the tiniest moments, mostly moments spent with family and friends.
It is only with awareness that I’ll be able to catch those moments. They don’t announce themselves and don’t happen on a schedule. They seem to happen more often with people I love, but it is often those very people that I have the least awareness with, thinking I already know everything they’re going to do or say.